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Different Ways of Motivating Your Child

There have been many research conducted in the fields of child motivation. Recent research by Andrew Martin, Sydney University professor and an expert in motivating kids shows that motivation has many faces. He pointed out that children with positive self-image are inclined to get good results, try harder and enjoy their school.

With that being said, parents should continuously motivate their children. There are parents who underestimate the power of motivation and just criticize their children all the time. This is unhealthy. If you want to invite good results and positive behaviour, you should learn how to motivate your children the right way. Here’s how:

  1. Control your anxiety. You have to control your anxiety and let motivate come from your child. If you want something, your child will only comply or resist just to calm you down. Whenever you are anxious to get something done, your children will only react and do what is expected of them. That is not a good way to motivate your child. You are only creating a power struggle.


  1. 2.       Be a good model. If you want to motivate and inspire your child, you have to show him/her how. Sometimes the best way to motivate a child is to stop motivating him/her. You have to ask yourself if your actions are controlling or inspiring. If it is controlling, you should mellow down a bit. Remember that if you are too controlling, your child will not want to get close to you.


  1. 3.       Let the child make decisions and face its consequences. Your child needs to grow. You have to let your child make decisions and if he makes a poor one, let him be responsible for it. You have to let him face the consequences of his actions. Your child will learn from his/her mistakes and that is enough motivation.


  1. Encouraging self-motivation. Your child needs to learn self-motivation. You will not be there always to inspire him/her. There will come a time that he/she will face everything alone and when that time comes, he/she can get through it because he/she has a power to change everything with the help of self-motivation. Motivation does not only come to you. It is innate in everyone.

Inspiring your kids will be easy as you go along. You should know that getting a good grade is not everything. There is a serious problem if you care about the grades of your child more than he/she cares about it. While it is good to push him/her to do better, you should know when to stop, accept him/her and then appreciate the effort.


Another Child Abuse Case

The damage has been done. A childcare teacher allegedly assaulted a three year old boy. The boy suffered fracture emotionally and physically. The parents said that for two successive nights, the boy always wakes up moaning, crying and screaming.

This is very painful to hear. The parents are now doubtful of sending their boy to any childcare centre. This is quite understandable because they don’t want their boy to suffer the same fate. The teacher was arrested because of this incident. She would answer to many people.


The boy is recuperating now but he will not forget the incident. If you are a parent, you should do your best to restore the vigour and excitement of your child when you talk about school. You can consider the following things:

Always ask your child about his/her day in school

You should ask your child about his/her day in school. You will know if the kid enjoyed school because usually there are endless sharing and talking. If your kid is silent and looks like worried or bothered, something happened and they don’t want you to know it. That is not a good indication.

If he/she is complaining about something, go to his/her teacher

If your kid is complaining about fellow students, you should go directly to his/her teacher and discuss about it. Bullying should not be encouraged especially in the classroom setting.

If he/she is complaining about the teacher, go to the principal

If your kid is complaining about the teacher, you should go directly to the principal. You should discuss about it because it might be a child abuse case.

It is crucial for children to love school but how can they love it when there are teachers and other classmates that scare them? As a parent, you should do your best to deal with it.