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Beliefs That Might Be Holding You Back at Work

There’s just a lot to be said for being confident at work. Yet, that same self-assuredness isn’t that easy to come in a professional setting – especially with a little voice at the back of our heads spewing some negative beliefs about ourselves. So what’s the first step to silencing and countering those beliefs? It’s knowing the lies that the voice is telling you. For that reason, we listed down some of the beliefs that could be keeping you from reaching your full potential in your career.
 

1. Believing You Can’t Do It
 
In your professional life, there will be a lot of challenges and new tasks that’ll force you to step out of your comfort zone – which is why it’s only normal to doubt yourself when you’re attempting to tackle something that’s completely foreign to you. Yet, it’s crucial that you push through and don’t give in into this self-defeating attitude. If you need some reassurance before taking that leap, simply ask yourself as to what’s the worst thing that could possibly happen. Chances are, it won’t be as bad as you imagined it to be.
 
2. Thinking Everyone is Better Than You
 
Perhaps you’re a newbie in your office or maybe you feel too inexperienced to start your own business. Whatever your specific circumstances is, there’s absolutely no point in obsessing over someone else’s talents and experience – or your lack thereof. You’ve been placed in your position for a reason. You have your own set of skills that bring significant value to the table. So avoid constantly comparing yourself against another person, since that comparison game won’t help you get to where you want to be.
 

3. Sticking to a Routine
 
While it’s advantageous to have a reliable routine, you certainly wouldn’t want to get stuck in your ways and never be willing to make any necessary adjustments. Remember, this is real life and various issues can come up. You can’t be obsessed over your rigid habits that you don’t have the flexibility to make changes when they’re needed. Your work life is flexible, and your approach needs to be as well.
 
4. Feeling Undervalued
 
It’s quite easy to feel undervalued when you’re a part of a big department. You only see your work, and you only have little to no understanding of how that work contributes to your company. This sort of attitude could make you feel irrelevant, causing all the hard work you put out to seem pointless. As frustrating as it could be, it’s important to remember that every employee is a piece of a larger puzzle. Always keep in mind that your work is valued and that you’re certainly making a difference in your company.
 

We all experience moments of self-doubt when it comes to our careers. But the important thing to remember is to keep those self-defeating beliefs in check. Stay consciously aware of it and you’re sure to take steps into the right direction.

How to Deal With Rude People

 

At work or at school, we have to deal with a lot of people. We have to talk to everyone no matter the differences in personality and temperament. But how do we get along with the especially rude ones?

  1. Keep contact to a minimum. If you don’t need to interact with the rude person, you don’t have to. You can greet each other on the hallways but it’s better to never start conversations if you can avoid it.

 

  1. Don’t be rude too. Rudeness can be contagious. Some people react by responding the same way. An environment like that creates unhealthy relationships. Always keep your cool. Remember that that rude person isn’t worth losing your self-control over.

 

  1. Alert them that they’re being offensive. The best way to let them know that they’re rude is to confront them about it. Be civil but firm. Tell them why you’re uncomfortable with their behavior and that you’re still willing to communicate if they start acting civilly.

 

  1. Laugh it off. Don’t let their negativity affect you. If you do, your work and relationships with other people around you might be affected. If the person is generally rude, don’t blame yourself for their behavior.

 

  1. You might have to talk to your boss. If the person is starting to affect your work and the environment where you’re working, you might have to tell your boss about it. He might be able to come up with a solution for you both. Sometime rudeness is borderline harassment or bullying. Know the difference.

  1. It might be difficult to change. Even when confronted about their behavior, the person might still not change. It could be a habit or a part of his personality. Don’t expect the other person to change just because you don’t like him.

 

  1. Tell that person’s friend. Talk to that person’s close friend. Maybe you’ll be able to understand why the person is rude. Perhaps it’s a habit or maybe he’s going through something.

 

  1. Be civil to that person. Even if he’s insulting you, don’t stoop down to his level. Don’t take the bait. Treat everyone with kindness and understanding so that when the confrontation comes, people will be on your side.

 

  1. Try to be friends with the person. Perhaps his conversations with you will improve if he sees you want to be friends. The rudeness could be an act by the person, sometimes unconsciously, to protect himself from other people.

 

  1. Don’t take it to heart. If you know you’re not the rude one, don’t take it personally. Let the insults and taunts slide. You’re a better person and it should stay that way. If you’re too upset to respond, walk away from that situation. It’s better not to respond than to let the situation escalate.