How to Deal With Rude People


At work or at school, we have to deal with a lot of people. We have to talk to everyone no matter the differences in personality and temperament. But how do we get along with the especially rude ones?

  1. Keep contact to a minimum. If you don’t need to interact with the rude person, you don’t have to. You can greet each other on the hallways but it’s better to never start conversations if you can avoid it.


  1. Don’t be rude too. Rudeness can be contagious. Some people react by responding the same way. An environment like that creates unhealthy relationships. Always keep your cool. Remember that that rude person isn’t worth losing your self-control over.


  1. Alert them that they’re being offensive. The best way to let them know that they’re rude is to confront them about it. Be civil but firm. Tell them why you’re uncomfortable with their behavior and that you’re still willing to communicate if they start acting civilly.


  1. Laugh it off. Don’t let their negativity affect you. If you do, your work and relationships with other people around you might be affected. If the person is generally rude, don’t blame yourself for their behavior.


  1. You might have to talk to your boss. If the person is starting to affect your work and the environment where you’re working, you might have to tell your boss about it. He might be able to come up with a solution for you both. Sometime rudeness is borderline harassment or bullying. Know the difference.

  1. It might be difficult to change. Even when confronted about their behavior, the person might still not change. It could be a habit or a part of his personality. Don’t expect the other person to change just because you don’t like him.


  1. Tell that person’s friend. Talk to that person’s close friend. Maybe you’ll be able to understand why the person is rude. Perhaps it’s a habit or maybe he’s going through something.


  1. Be civil to that person. Even if he’s insulting you, don’t stoop down to his level. Don’t take the bait. Treat everyone with kindness and understanding so that when the confrontation comes, people will be on your side.


  1. Try to be friends with the person. Perhaps his conversations with you will improve if he sees you want to be friends. The rudeness could be an act by the person, sometimes unconsciously, to protect himself from other people.


  1. Don’t take it to heart. If you know you’re not the rude one, don’t take it personally. Let the insults and taunts slide. You’re a better person and it should stay that way. If you’re too upset to respond, walk away from that situation. It’s better not to respond than to let the situation escalate.

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